Dear Friends,

Last night, my husband and I lay in bed and shared a secret that might sound, at first, a bit appalling.

We shared our hope that what happened in Boston was domestic terrorism.

Yes, you read correctly:  Domestic Terrorism.

Not international terrorism, not Al-Qaeda.  Not something we could blame on some other nation, or people, or religion.

We had been in Boston just the day before, had commented on the bomb-dogs that were sniffing suitcases and trashcans as we waited for Amtrak, had wondered how we could all sleep-walk past the monitors lulling us with propaganda of safety and fear. Orwellian.

And then the news: the Boston Marathon had been broken by bloodshed and we were staring down the next round of creeping anxiety, spreading news-flash to news-flash, replicating like a virus.

In the midst of this I got a phone call from a client telling me she was sick of being sick, she’d had it, she was done. She calmly told me that she was going to punch a hole in her illness.

How many of us walk around calmly spewing anger? Playing at exposing the darkness of our souls, never really allowing the anger to vent until it explodes and legs are lost, life is lost?

(In this moment, as I sit typing, my neighbor is yelling over and over again at his Down Syndrome charge: “When the fuck are you gonna get it? When the fuck are you gonna get it?” His anger shudders down my spine. I pause, and walk across the narrow strip separating our homes, and gently ask, “do you need a hand?” It breaks the tirade for now  but I know I’ve done nothing for the anger which will come again… Today? Next week?)

And so I wish this for all of us: the moment of understanding our anger.

The moment when we know, deep in our soul’s roots, that it’s not the other that angers us but our own ineffectiveness or inability to create change, our fear for the life we have or the life we want to lead. Our terror that our children will go hungry or be too scared to sleep. Our suspicion that we are not enough, not pure in the eyes of our Gods, not heard by our partners. Not lovable.

And then deeper: to the place within us that rejects gays and queers (or “straights”, for that matter), those whose skin or religion or spirituality is different than ours, or those who chose a life we can’t comprehend.

I wish us all a pause in which to see our prejudices clearly, to hold them up and examine them, to understand where within ourselves, and why within ourselves, they’ve taken root.

Our knowledge that it is not the other which angers us, it is ourselves.

Domestic terrorism.

Even as I write these words I feel, within me, the sparkling effervescence of panic floating upward in my belly, whispering that my nation no longer chooses free speech over security and that these words, this deep longing that we finally see the rot within instead of turning once again outward, will be considered an act of terrorism as if holding space and ground is now a sin.

But it’s not time to be silent. After 9/11, I watched in awe as we sunk into the silence of fears and those who would speak were shushed by friends and neighbors as the breath was sucked from hope and peace.

So this time I will pray out loud:

I pray that we are not allowed to look outward. I pray that our gaze will (finally) be drawn to the rot within (within our cities, our schools, and our institutions of governance). I pray that we will finally, gently, realize that this is the same darkness that created Columbine and Aurora and Newtown.

I pray that we will fall to our knees and weep for what we’ve allowed ourselves to become.

And then, with deep compassion for centuries of striving, we’ll begin to heal.

We’ll combat hate with hope and return our gaze to love.

Words are small things and yet they’re everything. They’re intention and action. They’re the signposts that remind us to begin change through small, do-able steps.

Now is not the time to become overwhelmed into inactivity. Let’s detox our nation one small do-able step at a time. My step for today is to write this blog post. To be real and truthful and vulnerable, right now, right here.

What’s your one simple step that you can take today?

I’ve often said that I would not step forward until I had something new to teach, until I created a better path up the mountain.

I was wrong.

I’m a torchbearer in a long, long relay. And it’s now my turn. And it’s yours. Let’s hold fear at bay with deep compassion, let’s pause and acknowledge the darkness in ourselves, let’s band together beyond hopelessness and helplessness, and be– each and every one of us– a voice for love.

Tell me in the comments below how you’re feeling about what’s going on in our country and our world.

Biggest hugs,





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