Life doesn’t deal in stasis or absolutes… which means there’s no such thing as “the answer.”
There’s only the answer that works right now. If what you’re doing isn’t working, it’s time to make a change.
I’ve always been fascinated by how the human body regenerates: your stomach cells regrow every 2 to 9 days, your skin every 10 to 30 days, and your liver takes about 6 months.
Which means that your body is constantly in motion. It’s micro-motion, to be sure, and most likely you don’t even notice it, but it’s motion nonetheless.
Everything in the universe is in a constant state of flux.
And since your mind’s gonna change, your body’s gonna change, and the world around you is gonna change, there’s no such thing as a forever answer (I know you want to find the jeans that will always make your ass look good and the perfect Saturday night guilty-pleasure t.v. series which will never run out of episodes or go into reruns. Not gonna happen).Sometimes something works super-well for a time… and then it doesn’t anymore. And that’s okay. Click To Tweet
The trick is to recognize when it’s time to move on, to know when what you’re doing is no longer working for you and it’s time to make a change. This holds true for food and exercise choices, jobs, relationships… it’s about knowing that all we can do is find the best answer for right now.
Those last two words are super important: right now.
A better question than “what’s the answer?” is “what’s working right now?”
Keeping this in mind will help you drop the perfectionism and embrace the best choice scenario: yup, there might be an uber eco-conscious vehicle coming on the market next year but if your car died yesterday, you need to make your choices from what’s available right now.
This is also permission to revisit past choices. It’s not about changing your mind or being wishy-washy, it’s about staying present in the moment. So those Ubiquinol capsules you started taking last year? They might not feel quite right anymore.
They were a great choice for then, but are they still the best choice right now?
Give yourself permission to ask these questions even when they have a lot more impact than which supplement you pop with breakfast.
In our search for stability we often dig in our heels and continue with a job, relationship, or a haircut that we initially thought made us look like Audrey Hepburn—even when we realize it’s more like Richard Simmons on a bad hair day.
When it comes to transforming your life, allowing yourself space to revisit, rethink, and re-feel into a situation also means you get to re-choose it if it’s right for you.
And re-commitment is a glorious thing.
But sometimes it’s gonna be about moving on, closing the door, breaking the habits. Maybe you’ll be able to track back and see what’s causing the shift within you, maybe it will remain a mystery. Our bodies and psyches are complex.
And ultimately, as any kid in puberty or newly pregnant woman knows, we are without a doubt chemically-based creatures.
Big swings in your inner chemistry can change everything from your optimism to what activities you enjoy to what foods you want to eat. These are things we usually think of as part of our personality.
But our inner chemistry—those cells that are constantly regenerating, growing, and changing—play a role in our personality so as we grow and age, things within us change… including our minds.
Which means we have to allow those changes to radiate outward onto the larger web of our lives.
The most important thing to remember when you make a change?
You’re not being disloyal to your yoga teacher, or your tea blend, or your family “who have all bent over backwards to help you go gluten-free” if you realize that it’s time to make a change.
Do you avoid necessary changes because you don’t want to inconvenience the folks around you? And then maybe you get waspish and resentful?
Giving yourself the space to see what’s working for you right now is essential to your personal growth and wellbeing. It’s not only about making up-to-date decisions, it’s about honing your discernment, following your inner-wisdom, and healing your relationship with your intuition.
Transforming your life isn’t gonna happen by random chance.
You need to create space for reassessment. I use my early spring detox to take a life inventory, clear out the clutter, and recommit to what’s working in my life.
In addition to a dietary detox and a house cleaning and decluttering, I clear space in my psyche.
I recently talked a friend through my favorite method for creating some psychic space, which I call “entering the star nursery”. I’ve recorded a short meditation so you can join us in this space of emptiness and pure creation.